Please find below the order of service we used for our own wedding.
We had a civil ceremony and not a church service so you will not find any religious references (not allowed in this type of service).
One of the greatestm difficulties we had was finding relevant readings for the service that did not contain any specific religous references. We aimed for a mix of amusing and serious to both make an interesting service for those attending and to respect the nature of the event.
Neither of us are big fans of congregation singing at weddings so there are no songs in the service.
REMEMBER: It's YOUR day and not your friends or parents. Do what makes you happy. If you like songs have them, it not, don't. Despite the lack of religious references civil ceremonys are very flexible and you can easily create a service to bring out your character into the wedding.
Please feel free to look through the text and readings below and copy parts if you like them. Just remember that there are a few core phrases that must be included and these change according to the coutry you get married in. We obtained the details for ours from the Oban Registrar. Please note that civil weddings in England do differ slighty from those in Scotland.
Attached here is the booklet we gave to our guests for the service. When looking through it please remeber that the page ordering is for double-sided printing:
Also attached are the suggestions from the Oban registrar for service details and other details for getting married in Scotland:
On behalf of my colleague [2nd REGISTRAR NAME] and myself, I would like to welcome you all to Ardanaiseig Hotel today to celebrate the wedding of [BRIDE] and [GROOM] and of-course to you both I extend a special welcome on this very happy occasion, your wedding day.
As we begin this ceremony, I would like to introduce myself – my name is [1st REGISTRAR NAME] and I am the Registrar to the District of Oban. I have been appointed by the Registrar General for Scotland as a person authorised to conduct Civil Marriages in accordance with the provisions of the Marriage (Scotland) Act 1977.
We are here today to take part in a civil marriage ceremony. [GROOM 1st NAME] and [BRIDE 1st NAME], you are about to be married in accordance with the Law of Scotland in the presence of your two witnesses and this company now that all the requirements of that law prior to your marriage have been satisfied.
Marriage is one of the most important obligations that any two people commit to in their lifetime. Marriage offers the greatest challenges to overcome, but in return, marriage gives us love, strength and support from one another.
It is the couple who persevere and demonstrate unrelenting patience and faith who obtain the highest form of happiness within their marriage. A good marriage is dependent upon many factors, but the first prerequisite is a strong bond of friendship and respect for one another. Before the vows, could you please identify yourselves:
TO BRIDEGROOM: Are you [GROOM] whose usual residence appears on this marriage schedule as [ADDRESS]?
TO BRIDE: Are you [BRIDE] whose usual residence appears on this marriage schedule as [ADDRESS]?
I now also have to ask – are both witnesses to this marriage sixteen years of age or over?
'Yes, I'll marry you' by Pam Ayres
Yes, I'll marry you, my dear.
And here's the reason why.
So I can push you out of bed
When the baby starts to cry.
And if we hear a knocking
And it's creepy and it's late,
I hand you the torch you see,
And you investigate.
Yes I'll marry you, my dear,
You may not apprehend it,
But when the tumble-drier goes
It's you that has to mend it.
You have to face the neighbour
Should our Labrador attack him,
And if a drunkard fondles me
It's you that has to whack him.
Yes, I'll marry you,
You're virile and you're lean,
My house is like a pigsty
You can help to keep it clean.
That sexy little dinner
Which you served by candlelight,
As I do chipolatas,
You can cook it every night!!!
It's you who has to work the drill
And put up curtain track,
And when I've got PMT it's you who gets the flak,
I do see great advantages,
But none of them for you,
And so before you see the light,
I DO, I DO, I DO!!
'You're The One For Me' by Dallas Fisher
You're the one for me.
Your eyes are like fire on a cold winter's day
Your soul burns within me
Your touch blossoms my innermost passions
And your voice melts my heart.
You're the one for me.
You are the key to unlocking
My most sacred fantasies.
You're the one for me,
The one that wakens me
When I'm at my deepest sleep
With your passionate ways,
The one that rivets me with
Your beautiful, unique face.
You're the one for me.
You are the one that I want to share
My life, my love with for all eternity.
I will love you always and forever.
You're the one for me.
Before you [GROOM 1st NAME] and you [BRIDE 1st NAME] are joined in marriage, it is my duty to remind you of the binding character of the vows you are about to make. Marriage, according to the law of this country, is a union of one man with one woman, voluntarily entered into and to the exclusion of all others.
I now invite everybody to please stand while [GROOM 1st NAME] and [BRIDE 1st NAME] make their marriage declarations.
[GROOM 1st NAME] will you please face [BRIDE 1st NAME] and take her right hand in your own right hand.
TO BRIDEGROOM: [GROOM 1st NAME], will you please repeat after me. I [GROOM] solemnly declare that I know of no legal impediment to my marrying [BRIDE] – whose hand I hold, and I now accept her as my lawful wedded wife, to have and to hold, for better for worse, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish from this day forward.”
TO BRIDE: [BRIDE 1st NAME], will you please repeat after me. I [BRIDE] solemnly declare that I know of no legal impediment to my marrying– [GROOM] whose hand I hold, and I now accept him as my lawful wedded husband, to have and to hold, for better for worse, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish from this day forward.”
From a Native American Indian Marriage Ceremony
May the sun bring you new energy by day;
May the moon softly restore you by night.
May the rain wash away your worries
And the breeze blow new strength into your being,
And all the days of your life may you walk
Gently through the world and know its beauty.
Now you will feel no rain, for each of you will be shelter for the other.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there will be no more loneliness,
Now you are two persons, but there is one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling to enter into the days of your life together,
And may your days be good and long upon the earth.
'I Wanna Be Yours' by John Cooper Clarke
I wanna be your vacuum cleaner
Breathing in your dust,
I wanna be your Ford Cortina
I will never rust,
If you like your coffee hot
Let me be your coffee pot,
You call the shots,
I wanna be yours.
I wanna be your raincoat
For those frequent rainy days,
I wanna be your dreamboat
When you want to sail away,
Let me be your teddy bear
Take me with you anywhere,
I don’t care,
I wanna be yours.
I wanna be your electric meter
I will not run out,
I wanna be the electric heater
You’ll get cold without,
I wanna be your setting lotion
Hold your hair in deep devotion,
Deep as the deep Atlantic ocean
That’s how deep is my devotion.
[BRIDE 1st NAME] and [GROOM 1st NAME] are beginning a new season in their life together. Thus far they have shared much — kindred tastes in books, caving, and travel; as well as a deep and abiding love for each other. The rings they are about to exchange are symbols of their vows to continue to share and enjoy their life together, and to embrace the diversity that makes each of them unique.
TO BRIDEGROOM: [GROOM 1st NAME], will you place the wedding ring on the third finger of [BRIDE 1st NAME]’s left hand and repeat after me: “As a token of my love and affection, with this ring, I thee wed.”
TO BRIDE: [BRIDE 1st NAME], will you place the wedding ring on the third finger of [GROOM 1st NAME]’s left hand and repeat after me: “As a token of my love and affection, with this ring, I thee wed.”
[GROOM 1st NAME] and [BRIDE 1st NAME], by the declaration which you have made before these witnesses and by the authority granted wit me it gives me much pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife. Congratulations!
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